Rihanna, Chua, Oral Sex

Since I have mentioned the Rihanna-Chris Brown saga a couple of times on my blog, I think that I carry the responsibility of reporting the latest developments of the incident, you know, just to keep you guys updated.
In case that you ain’t interested in celebrities news, you may skip to the second part of the post, but I assure you that this time it’s shocking. 
Yes, how shocking?
Take a deep breath, hold your glasses, and tighten your eyeballs.
Because… …
Rihanna… …
and Chris Brown… …
Reportedly, they have just got MARRIED!!!

WTH?!
Okay, this report could be false, but let us just assume it was true.
I mean, how on earth could she marry Chris Brown after she was beaten up so terribly by him?
I saw the pictures of her after being smacked by him. I am not going to describe how she looked like in detail, but in layman language, I bet even her mom could hardly recognize her!

According to the report, the main reason that Rihanna forgave him and married him was that she was pregnant.
People used to say “A kiss can make one forgive and forget,” but now it is “A baby can make one forgive and marry.”
In my opinion, if she wasn’t pregnant, she should leave him for good; but with a baby, well, things are complicated then.
I don’t want to spend time thinking how she can turn around the situation for the sake of not killing my brain cells.
Anyway, I will keep you guys posted.
Let’s move on to the next topic for now.

I have no doubt that the media is fond of reporting salacious gossip.
The folks on the street like to pry into the private lives of others, and hence the media like to make them like a big deal.
As for myself, I don’t usually follow such news. Even for the case of Rihanna, I wouldn’t have known if Oliver didn’t mention it to me on Facebook.
There is nothing wrong with being interested in the personal affairs of public figures, but I just pondered over how it would be like when it involved politicians.

Take the case of MCA deputy president Chua.
Is his personal life relevant to his political career?
I mean, be it blow job, hand job, foot job, or tit job, did it matter at all?
Seriously I couldn’t care less.
I conceive that if he can perform his job efficiently in his office, I don’t care what kind of job he does/has in his bed (don’t confuse these two jobs).

Nevertheless, that’s merely my personal opinion.
I don’t have kids. If I had one, I perhaps would be afraid that such scandal would influence my kid. 
Let’s assume that Chua wasn’t punished (either by the police or his party) over the sex scandal, and let’s say there was this 14-year-old teenager who read news and had a sense of what’s going on in our country.
This teenager was caught being given a blow job by a girl at some hidden corner at school.
Then they were brought to the discipline teacher.
He insisted that he wasn’t doing any bad thing. “If Chua can do it, why can’t I do the same?” he argued.
What should the discipline teacher say to him?
A) What you did was against the law.
“But Chua violated the law and yet he wasn’t punished,” he argued. 
B) You shouldn’t have done it in public.
“The fellow who filmed Chua’s video clip and released it to the public wasn’t punished, I did my thing at some hidden corner, what did I do wrong?” again he argued. 
C) Kid, you are too young to do things like this.
“WTF? Don’t always use such a lame excuse, aren’t you adults tired of this line?!” he shouted.

The above fictitious scenario kinda explains why some people argue that politicians should serve as role models, not only at work but in their private lives as well.
Whatever they do is exposed under the limelight and is scrutinized by the people with a magnifier.
So, does one’s personal life matter to his/her political career?
This is a question that never seems to have an absolute answer.

By the way, if you ever wonder why oral sex is called blow job but not suck job when the action is more like sucking, you may want to check out this post: http://unspokenlyrics.blogspot.com/2008/11/why-is-it-called-blow-job-when-its.html
I am actually more interested to know why oral sex wasn’t named as mouth job like how other jobs were named (foot-, hand-, tit-).
Whatever it is, as long as intercourse is not called pu*** job or pe*** job, lol…

News, Premarital Sex, Family

I have been reading newspapers a lot these days. It’s the moment that you should spend at least a fair amount of time reading news, simply because you can’t afford missing all of the followings:
1. the political tussle in Perak that has brought a ripple effect to the whole nation in various aspects – the infights within Pakatan Rakyat, the challenge to Sultan’s prerogatives, the demonstrations held by the rakyat, the distraction from economic issues,  etc. Anwar, it’s nothing but tit for tat, so you have no one but yourself to blame.
2. the natural disasters in China and Australia – China is having droughts in many areas of the country, especially in its breadbaskets that grow winter wheat. Australia is facing the worst wildfire disaster due to a combined effect of hot weather and dry winds as well as arsonists. As of the moment, 173 people have died.
3. the parliamentary elections in Israel – the results of the elections will definitely determine the future of Gaza Strip. Peace or fire awaits?
4. last but not least, the economic downturn not seen in decades across the globe – this is still a hot topic. Obama is yet to get his second stimulus package passed by the Congress, but we at least see a ray of hope. However, back in Malaysia, second stimulus package is still not in sight despite the fact that a lot of us are yearning for it.

I came across this article titled “Baby Dumping: Sex Education is the Key” published in New Straits Times.
I was able to retrieve it on NST’s website with the URL http://www.nst.com.my/Current_News/NST/Monday/Letters/20090209073816/Article/index_html

I have no interest in discussing sex education. It’s something that we all know we need it for teenagers in schools but we just don’t have it in Malaysia.
Pardon me if we already have it in the curriculum; I have been away from primary and secondary schools for more than 4 years.
Even if we have it in schools, a lot of people are still close-minded when it comes to anything related to sex, such as the use of condoms.

A friend of mine studying at University of Malaya told me this story. Several students got a few boxes of condoms to give away for an event, but in the end they were prohibited by the university’s management from doing so.
Well, only God knows what happened to all the condoms.
It is obvious that the U.S. and Malaysia have distinctively different cultures regarding sex.
I still remember that when I first arrived at Des Moines airport, I received a bag containing brochures and booklets providing information about Ames and Iowa State University; along with that was a Durex condom.
Besides that, condoms are provided free of charge at the university’s health center; emergency contraceptive pills can also be acquired without prescription by women/girls above 18. 
In Malaysia, emergency pills like RU-486 are not available at pharmacies, you perhaps have to get them in black market.
So you see the difference?

Anyway, that’s not what I wanted to talk about initially, so let’s get back to the topic.
I was kinda shock when the author said “young girls have to be told clearly and vividly that premarital sex is a sin.”
To be honest, in my entire 21 years and 6 months of life, it was the first time I heard this kind of viewpoint of “premarital sex is a sin!”
I mean, I have seen people saying premarital sex was bad, was immoral, or was socially unacceptable, but never have I heard “premarital sex is a sin.”
I reckoned it was a viewpoint suggested by Islam, so I googled it. From what I got from the internet, all religions actually prohibit premarital sex (I dunno how accurate this information is, but it is at least true for Islam and Christianity).
Therefore, I think it’s okay to suggest that premarital sex is a sin from religious perspective, but what do we do if we were to introduce or mention premarital sex in sex education in schools? Should we tell the “young girls” that “premarital sex is a sin” when there are so many atheists and non-religious people (that might include some of them) out there? And, what do we tell them about the millions of “sinful” psyches in the world?
For me, it’s ridiculous to think premarital sex is a sin. It’s just a humans’ desire.
It’s even more ridiculous when people suggest early marriage if sex becomes irresistible. How funny!

Okay, so I kept reading. I was shock again when the author claimed “when unwed girls find themselves pregnant there is virtually no help from the family.”
WTF, what is this?
Isn’t family whom we turn to when we are facing grave problems in life?
Isn’t family who always stand by us when we are in trouble?
You know why we have so many baby dumping cases every year? Because these girls were so afraid of letting their families know.
Why were they afraid?
Did they not know families were always the ones that could be trusted? No, they didn’t because there were people out there saying they wouldn’t get help from the families.
Poor babies…

By the way, I think if the use of condoms is encouraged and promoted in the society and emergency pills are allowed to be sold in the market, premarital pregnancies and baby dumping can be reduced to a minimum level.
Well, just a thought.

Sex and Love

It doesn’t sound right to talk about sex on such a romantic day, but I feel like doing that.
No one can deny the relationship between sex and love.
It is just like the relationship between a couple.
Both bonds are equally strong.

As for the title “Sex and Love,” you may wonder why not putting it as “Love and Sex?”
People tend to think that the one that comes first is foremost among all.
I am not trying to emphasize sex is more important or carries more weight than love in this post.
I am merely following the Chinese term 性爱, which has sex come before love.

Sex and love is not a new topic.
Millions of people have thought about it, have read about it, or have even written about it.
They come so naturally that we don’t even need to be taught.
It’s not calculus or physics.
There are no equations or formulas for you to ensure you will have a good love or sex.
Though there are tons of books teaching how to deal with problems in love and many porns showing various skills, when it comes to your turn, things might turn out differently.
It won’t do you much good even if you keep a crib sheet with you all the time.
Life itself is the best teacher, and we learn through experience.

“Boyfriend/girlfriend is a friend whom you can have sex with”
“Love is friendship with lust”
I heard or read about the above two statements long time ago.
I don’t know where they were originally from.
They are so plain until the romance of love is destroyed, but they are certainly worth thinking.
Which couple does not start from friends?
Which couple does not have sex after some time of being together (or perhaps immediately right after being together)?
The couples I mean are in general, which represent the majority of people, not some religious or traditional ones.
In fact, the relationship between sex and love is so close so strong until people call “have sex” as “make love.”
Couples have sex because they love each other, and through sex they love each other more.
Be noted that the above statement is not absolutely true but to some extent.

Some pundits claim that guys love for sex while girls have sex because of love.
I ain’t sure how right the statement is, but it certainly depicts the general situation and shows that sex and love are closely related.
That reminds me of something a friend told me in high school.
He said that the look of girlfriend is no big deal at all, as long as her legs are thin, fair, and smooth.
“Why?” I asked, not sure if I was really that innocent or pretended to be.
“’cause when you ‘do’ you can use pillow to cover her face,” he said.
I am certain that you know what “do” means.
I don’t approve of his thought, but that represents what some people think about a relationship.
All I can say is that a relationship is a mixture of love and sex.

Alright, this post might have pissed you off as it ruined your mood of celebrating Valentine’s.
But, let me ask you a question:
Which couple doesn’t make love after all the romantic stuff tonight?
Guess what, romance is the best stimulant to sex.

Exercise and Masturbation

Studying makes me sleepy, especially after I study for a couple of hours.

Finals are gonna start tomorrow. I guess everyone is studying and nobody is reading my blog. I gotta deal with econ tomorrow noon, so I have been studying with Jenn and Roy in my living room for the whole day… Then I felt sleepy, so I decided to come into my bedroom and do some push-ups and sit-ups.

After exercise, I went out and sat on the sofa, breathing heavily.

“Jing Yi, what did you do in your room? Why are you breathing heavily?” Jenn said.
“What else could he do with the door close?” Roy said, with the expression of “you know lah.”
“What the…,” I said, with the expression of “Oh My GOD!”

Then the topic continued with masturbation, though I was actually doing some exercise in my room……

“Wonder” of the post:
Do guys breath heavily after masturbation? Well, at least I don’t.

“Ponder” of the post:
Never exercise in your bedroom with the door close when there are people in the living room, just like you never masturbate under the same situation.

Quote of the post:
“Studying is stressful, so you need to release something,” by tt.

hmm interesting…

Just got a love bite from Yu, the feeling was… high and song!!!

High, not in a sexually excited way, but rather in a “high” way in which everyone was laughing and making fun together. Song, not in a way that I have done something exciting, but rather in a “song” way in which I never got a love bite from a guy (this was something new!).

Hmm… I don’t recall when I got my first love bite, don’t recall whether it was given by my ex or my ex-ex. All I remember is she gave me that love bite on my request, and that was on my chest, lol!

Now I got my second love bite in my life, really dunno what to say about it. Somehow it is larger and more obvious than Chris’. Yu, I appreciate your love xD I guess tomorrow there will be two tags called “Jing Yi’s neck” and “love bite from Yu!” on Facebook. I don’t think I can forget this love bite of my life unless I delete my Facebook account, haha…

“Wonder” of the post:
When will the love bite go away? How am I gonna explain to my parents (maybe just tell them someone loves me too much?)?

“Ponder” of the post:
Please leave your love bite on my chest, but not my neck…

Quote of the post:
“Hickeys are much like bruises, they are caused by breaking blood vessels below the skin… I am not sure how old you are, but parents are usually pretty unhappy to see hickeys on their children,” by Dr. Luvmore.